We don’t need to change ourselves


“But loving-kindness, or maitri, toward ourselves doesn’t mean getting rid of anything. Maitri means that we can still be crazy after all these years. We can still be angry after all these years. We can still be timid or jealous or full of feelings of unworthiness. The point is not to try to change ourselves. Meditation practice isn’t about trying to throw ourselves away and become something better. It’s about befriending who we are already. The ground of practice is you or me or whoever we are right now, just as we are. That’s the ground, that’s what we study, that’s what we come to know with tremendous curiosity and interest.”

~ From The Pocket Pema Chödrön by Pema Chödrön, pages 12–13 (available from Shambhala Publications)


2 thoughts on “We don’t need to change ourselves

  1. Befriending who we are – I love this. What a beautiful way of looking at meditation. It sounds soft, loving and healing rather than austere and “righteous” as how most times meditation is viewed. I am not sure if I have heard it put in these words and if I had it didn’t register :-).


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